Why you shouldn’t make a big deal out of small things
It’s been said and written over and over again that life is not so much about what happens to you, but how you react to what happens to you. Given that things happen all day long, some good. some bad, putting some controls over our reactions to the incidents around us is essential to living an emotionally stable and healthy life. When we stop making a big deal out of small things, life becomes much more pleasant and enjoyable.
1. Stress: There’s no doubt that stress is not a good thing for us emotionally, and excessive stress can eventually manifest as physical illness. When we make a big deal out of small things, we unnecessarily increase our stress levels. Let’s look at an example of this. Have you ever been in line at a grocery store and an elderly person is in front of you, and they seem to be moving like molasses and you seem to be in a really hurry. Then you start to feel stressed out. The truth is, there’s really nothing productive about going down this path.
2. Anxiety: Making a big deal out of small thing is a recipe for anxiety. Anxiety like stress is something we want to try and avoid. When you are anxiety ridden you are essentially setting yourself up for a very stressful experience, which in turn can manifest as physical illness.
3. Driving other people crazy: People who make a big deal out of very small things have a tendency to drive the people around them nuts. As a result they end up alienating people and causing people to minimize interaction with them.
Questions to Ask
When you are on the verge of making a big deal out of something that might seem small, ask yourself a few questions before you have a reaction.
1. How important is this?
Most of the time you’ll find that the thing you’ve decided to make a big deal out of really is not that important. In fact, it probably won’t make a difference after about 30 minutess or even after a day.
2. How much does this really matter?
If you ask yourself this question you’ll find that what you are about to react to is really no big deal at all. Most of the horrible things you’ve thought about this incident are really self-created and a result of irrational thought.
3. What’s going to be the impact of this?
Give some thought to how an incident or event will impact you tomorrow or the day after and you’ll find that all of a sudden it ceases to have any power over you.
By learning not to make a big deal out of small things, we tend to live much more peaceful lives, and we tend to be much happier with very little effort.
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