Note: This is a guest post by M.Farouk Radwan, founder of www.2knowmyself.com,The ultimate source for self understanding.
This is what I know about you
What if you discovered that your friend’s IQ was very low and that this would never help him succeed in life, will you be able to tell him this fact or will you just avoid hurting him by hiding the truth?
That’s a tough situation especially if you loved that friend so much but what if that friend was you and what if the one who made the discovery was your subconscious mind???
Self deception and luck
Sometimes it hurts the ego much less to believe that life is unfair or to claim that you are unlucky than to admit that you didn’t try hard enough
To some people, especially the ones who don’t understand that success is only a matter of the number of tries, they feel really bad when they fail and so in order to protect their egos they attribute their failures to things such as luck and unfairness of life.
While in fact succeeding in doing anything is all about failing enough times until you manage to do that thing without failing.
Remember when you were a little kid and trying to walk for the first time?
How many times did you fall?
Why didn’t you blame your luck for it?
And why did you keep trying?
Simply because at that time your weren’t taught yet how to blame the circumstances for your faults.
Now remember when your parents started hitting the ground (as if they were punishing it) when you first fell down and hurt your head?
At this point your parents were teaching you indirectly how to blame the ground when you fall!!
But life is sometimes really unfair and there are lucky people
Yes some people were born with tons of resources but they wasted them!!
Some people were born without resources and managed to collected all the resources they wanted
How many poor men became billionaires and how many millionaires lost their money?
I agree that your starting point might depend on fate, fairness of life, luck or whatever you call it but the end point is 100% under your control
You might have been born without any skills but learning new skills is your choice
You might have been born without any luck but changing your life and creating your own luck is up to you.
When I first started my website I believed I had amazing content but my site was unknown for one year. at this point I could have said that life is unfair and I would have stopped working on it but because I believed I deserve to succeed I managed to continue until I reach a point where my website gets above half a million hit per month
I wasn’t lucky at all but I forced my way and created my own luck
You too can do the same because I not a super man but I am just a person who has correct beliefs about life, success and luck
Don’t blame your world but force your way and create your own luck
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I love this post. It’s an amazing point you make here…and I especially love the opening. If we aren’t careful, we can fall into a pit of blaming the “universe” instead of taking responsibility for our actions. We have to hold ourselves accountable – that doesn’t mean blaming yourself or focusing on “failures”. It just means that you can’t sit around being a victim of an unfair world. In reality, we are much more powerful than that. We have to embrace our power.
Thanks for the great guest post!
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Chrissy,
I agree. When I started this site a year ago, there was nobody reading it. I look at it today and it kind of blows my mind that this is how far I’ve come. It’s largely because I took responsibility make changes in my life. To some degree I was forced into the situation, but it really was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.
Hi Farouk,
All very true. We really do create our own luck. What it takes to be a winner has nothing to do with IQ, the stars, or where you went to school. It takes cleaning your mental manor of those contaminating thoughts that argue against succeeding.
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Somewhere along the way we start getting this idea in our head that it’s circumstances that determine where we end up. After you unplug from the matrix, you start to realize that you do in fact have the power to shape the world the way you see fit. It’s both enlightening and a bit disturbing. It’s enlightening because of possibility, but disturbing because you’ve been on the other path for so long.
How true. The more we work and the more we believe in oursleves, the more likely we are to succeed! I am not only a firm believer in this, but I have proved it over and over again in my own life!
As Samuel Goldwyn said, The harder I work, the luckier I get!”
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Steve,
It’s something I didn’t believe when I was younger. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized we do have the ability to create our own luck in this life. We just have to believe that it’s possible.
It always is the case where the harder you work, the luckier you get.
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The line ” the starting point may depend on fate but d end point is always 100% in ur control “..is truely amazing…nice post !
Hi,
Nice post. Well, we cannot decide on which environment or circumstances we are born into. Someone can regard themselves lucky if they get hold of the last jar of peanut butter on the shelf before it’s re-stocked. Some people might think someone unlucky because they have sacrificed their life for someone they love.
However, we can instantly increase our luck by understanding and accepting all the good and benefit that exists in our lives right now. The key to being lucky is in our perception of what good luck is.
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