The weakness in force

One thing I’ve been thinking quite a bit about lately is the concept of letting go. I think there has been plenty written about letting go, so I wanted to take a look at if from a different perspective. I was listening to Wayne Dyer’s Translation of the Tao Te Ching, in Change Your Thoughts, Change your Life, which should be required reading for The Skool of Life. One idea I kept coming across in almost all of the 81 verses was the idea of not forcing anything, and just letting it be, and letting things, experiences, and people just flow in to your life.

Have you ever noticed how the things you’ve obtained through force ended up causing you more pain than pleasure in your life? Every time I’ve worked way too hard to get a job without letting nature take its course, I’ve ended up hating the job in the long term. In fact, it brought me almost no long term happiness.  Every time I’ve persuaded somebody to go on a date with me that I could sense didn’t want to, it didn’t end up that great. Even if we dated for a some time the relationship fizzled out.  Sure, there are exceptions to this, and I’m not saying you should forego somebody you think you might be in love with.

The point is, none of it, your goals, meeting the right people, having the life you want, is supposed to be difficult. It’s supposed to be easy, but we get in our own way. The ultimate irony is the more we force the outcomes we want, the further away we get from getting what we want.  Using force gives off an entirely different vibration, to the best of my knowledge one of lack. As a result this is yet another way we keep digging up the seeds and cause the law of attraction to fail.

We live in such an action oriented world that the concept of using no force can be very confusing. In all of these situations, you are not forcing something physically, but doing it mentally. But by forcing something mentally, you’ll notice that you start to feel it physically. For example, when you submit a resume for a job, and push, and push through your endless wondering, and thinking about  whether you will get the job, notice what it does to your body. It probably doesn’t feel very good.

But, when we approach the same situation and we just let experience, results, and incidents flow, they tend to be incidents that work in our favor. This last semester of graduate school, I never once thought about my grades. I’m not even sure what my final GPA was. But based on my grades on papers and assignments I completed, I got the highest grades I’ve ever gotten because I only concerned myself with learning, and refused to use force. When we stop forcing the outcome, we end up meeting the right people, we end up in our dream jobs, and we tend find our bliss.