The Days that Test Our Patience and Build Our Character

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Every now and then, I find myself in situation where I’m thinking that “living the dream” feels a bit like “living a nightmare.” Certain days abroad can really test your patience. For me last Wednesday was one of those days. As you know by know the biggest source of my stress here in Costa Rica has been my transportation. As cool as it is to have an ATV, wondering whether it will start every single day is enough to make you batshit crazy.

The Adventures of Me and Rolando

The guy who you see above in that picture is Rolando. He’s the mechanic who owns this ATV. He’s a nice enough guy and honest, but I’ve become better friends with him than anybody should ever be with a mechanic. I’ve seen the guy at least half a dozen times over the last 2 months:

  • The Moped Incident: If you read my story about the first two weeks of being a digital nomad, you remember my stupidity in thinking that I could survive with a scooter on these crazy dirt roads. Well that scooter broke down and we had to call Rolando to come and pick it up from the town I live in 30 minutes away from his shop.  Prior to that we’d seen the guy a few times already at his location, when I was looking for transportation.
  • The Starter Goes Out: After replacing the battery here with a local mechanic, there was a day when I got back from the beach and the starter went completely out. That morning we gave Rolando a call, and he came over, and fixed the starter. He also noticed an oil leak.
  • The Oil Leak:  When he noticed the oil leak, he told me he’d come back and get it in a few days, take it to his shop and get it all fixed up for me. At this point I’d seen this guy so many damn times I was beginning to think maybe I should go grab drinks with him or something.
  • Issues with the Gears: Earlier last week, I woke up and when I turned the quad on to head out surfing it wouldn’t start. I had gone almost 15 days with no issues so I think it happened right in time for another meeting with Rolando. This time I knew I needed a picture with the guy so I could write about him on the blog.
  • The Final Break Down:  After this last visit, he told me to call him on the weekend so he could take it back to his shop and replace some sort of fibers on the clutch which I was more than happy to take care of if it meant I’d get to ride this thing with no issues. To top it off, the guys I’m working with needed to move me to a different location and when I got there internet was virtually unusable. So, I decided to make my way back to where the condos were at to let them know I’d need a different place where the internet worked. On the way back the quad broke down. I had to ditch it by the side of the road and walk.

After all this, it turns out that I got to choose my new location and I’m  done dealing with this ATV. I told the guys I’m working with  “if you can put me at a place with WIFI that’s walking distance from a surf spot and I don’t need this stupid vehicle half my issues will be solved.” I don’t mind the 100 person town. I don’t mind the solitude. But when the fuel for my fire is denied (surfing everyday)  and my vehicle starting is a continual unknown, it’s enough to make living the dream seem like I’m not.  Oddly enough this sequence of events may result in me getting everything I wanted.  I’m now living in a new location and able to walk to my surf spot. My productivity should go up dramatically by not spending days wasting time with logistics. Days like this don’t just test our patience. They build our character. They’re a test of how far you’re willing to go in order to get what you want. There’s many people in my life who wouldn’t be able to handle the stress, the uncertainty, the unknowns.  But it’s in this territory, in those unexplored avenues the magic of life and amazing opportunities emerge. As I once said before, the payoff is worth anything you have to go through (even if means renting an ATV from a mechanic who seems like he might be drunk most of the time).

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Great to hear you're even closer to the beach and able to "fuel" your life with even more surf juice. That's fantastic. What I love about what you do Srinvias, is that you know what you want, and accomplish it. Although I know, from your bios, that it's taken a few years (like any good thing should), you're doing it. Living the life you've dreamed up. And you'll get these little wrenches that try and screw things up; but only make things better in the long run of things.

Christian,

It's definitely been better for my state of mind and I've probably hit 8 surf sessions in about 4 days and gonna hit a second one this evening. It's definitely taken a few years and I always say that it's all still a work in progress. The wrenches that screw things up really do make things better in the long run, but we can't recognize them when they occur because they come disguised as problems.

Thank God you relocated to Tamarindo - hehe!

Yeah, I'm happy to be here. It will be interesting to see how it all unfolds.

Srini,
I can relate, but in a different way. Our company has a fleet of a dozen or so vehicles and nothing throws a wrench in a well thought out plan like your crap breaking down....whether your surfing or installing swimming pools.
Cheers man, and congrats on the move!

Jason

I can only imagine how much worse this would be if I had to do something like installing swimming pools. Our dependency on transportation is a bit crazy when you think about it. That's why I figured if I was no longer dependent on it half my troubles would be gone. 3 days into it I can say I'm already happier.

A lesson learned is a lesson gained, as the saying goes. It seems that life sometimes forces changes upon us Srinivas, but we have to roll with the punches as best we can.

Sounds like your ATV wanted to leave this world anyway, so you've done a good thing overall. Hope your new stop treats you well :-)

Stuart,

You know what's strange is that it would work for several days at a time. That was what was annoying. But regardless everyday wondering weather it would start was making me insane. I think this new location is going to just be better for productivity and getting things done.

congrats on your move Srinivas, i am sure it will make you happier, as for the bad days you are right
we all face them from time to time so cheer up:)

Happy you're moving to your next stop Srini, that's sweet man, looking forward to following the adventure bud. Keep the life lessons coming.

Marcus

Thanks Marcus. I already feel like my days are more productive with the stress of this thing out of the way. I think I've already surfed 5 sessions since I arrived here on Monday so I'm it's definitely keeping me mellow :)

Hey Srinivas,

New to the blog, but I admire what youre doing! The little I know is, theres always a positive and a little bit of fun in whatever hardship you come across, and at the end of the day you come out with a story to tell which makes it more interesting. Just like youve told us your story and will keep on!

Martinsays: Thanks

Martin,

That is is perhaps the best thing about all this craziness that I'm enduring. Without it there wouldnt be much of a story. It's funny because I thought people would find this post more humorous than anything else given how ridiculous the situation is. I'm sure I'll be able to laugh at this at some point.

Srini,

Let me share a story with you real quick...it's from my childhood and it reminded me so much of this post...and it's funny!

My mom always had these RAGIDY cars man. They were bad. Every time we left to go somewhere it was a "cross-your-fingers" situation because her cars always had a mind of their own (mostly due to age and care).
Well, one car she had - I had to push it so she could jump-start it...that's the only way it would turn over. THE ONLY WAY. The bad thing was that it stalled ALL the time. At stop signs, stop lights...and worst of all (to me) when she would drop me off or pick me up from school. Can you imagine the humiliation! [it made me stronger]

My mom endured those awful cars for years and years. Now she's in a position to drive any type fo car she wants.

The moral - hang in there playa! Your being tested and teased to make sure that you really want what you're after. what's to come after the hard times ,are good ones; from the memories and lessons that you're creating now.

Most people don't have what you have to endure what you're enduring. You're living within a gift and making the best of it. And you're a gift to others for sharing it!

The saga continues...

PEACE.

It definitely has been a saga and I would if anything, all those nightmares with the ATV made the story a little more interesting a bit more humorous. I can only imagine thdealing with that humiliation as a kid, but I'm guessing it really was a character building experience for both you and your mom. It probably also makes you appreciate your situation now even more. Love the comment. Poetic :). Can't wait to have you come and rock it on BlogcastFM.

Very creative solution to a problem, Srini. Cheers on understanding the bottom line and not focusing on the issue that doesnt need to be fixed.

Yeah totally. I was happy to be done with that thing because now I have what I wanted :)

Hey Srini

I use to run a fleet of second hand Land Rovers, which I bought off the army and rebuilt. The first few months were a nightmare, they would stop in the middle of nowhere. I would spend hours walking back and finding a mechanic to fix them.
Needless to say I sometimes felt I should just push them off a cliff and call it a day.

I then realized that it wasn't a waste of time. I was learning and learning takes time. I think we get used to everything running on time, and to have instantaneous answers. Probably due to the web world we live in.
Then an engine breaks down and suddenly our life stops.

Good to hear you found a better place :)

John,

Sounds like you know exactly what I'm describing quite well. I was really beginning to that vehicle and without it as a part of the picture I already feel 100x more productive. I feel like entire days were wasted dealing with that damn thing. I never got to the point of pushing it off a cliff, but that last day I sure as hell felt like it. It was one of those moments where I felt like I was far from living the dream. Like you said we get used to everything running on time and perfectly. Turns out it doesn't work like that outside the western world.

That's a great story. I am starting to rethink my commute as well. It's taking 2hrs hours a day out of my life and that adds up quick.

It's a juggle for me since our housing is much cheaper where I live than around my work, but gas and time may make up for the difference.

I get to do something I love so it isn't taking away from that. I'll have to see what makes the most sense.

Thanks again.

Bryce,

I feel you on the commute thing. It can be such a headache that sometimes the savings end up not being worth it. When I was younger I actually commuted to work from a place that was more expensive than where my work was because the town my office was in bored me to death. Eventually it got so stressful that when I switched jobs and was in that same area I decided to live as close to work as possible.

Srini,

As I gaze into my crystal ball, I see that your life in the future will be full of ups and downs.

However, I also see more ups than downs. With the downs, I see that you will focus on the problem and find a solution.

I also see you traveling more than one can imagine. I see remote and strange places right up your alley.

I see exotic cuisines, book deals, job opportunities and money making gigs. Plus, public speaking engagements and dates with lovely ladies. This and more. You just wait and see what is in store for you. It is just a matter of time.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the luckiest one of all? Answer: Srini. Cheers to your life, friend.

Archan,

I was eagerly awaiting your comment on this post :). I'm sure there are going to be many strange places up my alley over the next several months or years. I like the sound of exotic cuisines and dates with lovely ladies :). I'm sure that even my new location will have its own unique set of challenges.

I agree with Sam, nice to see some pics. I see you holding a yellow banana everywhere I go online. :)

That old ATV just sounded like it didn't want to work properly no matter what. Glad you realized it was better to let it go then try to get it working. I was stressed out just reading about it. Haha.

Makes me think like some things you just have to let things go that are taking too much of your attention and it's not productive.

Trust me. You have no idea how unproductive the stress of dealing with this was making me. It's interesting that we're willing to endure that kind of stuff just because we want what we want so bad. We're too blind to see alternative solutions to a problem far too often. I know what you mean about Banana. I think it might be time for a profile picture update. I'll be using more of my own pics going forward too because I realized that just adds more to the story and branding.

haha Srini, even after hearing about this insane ATV experience on gChat, seeing it all together here really proves the point that this guy needs to junk the ATV! haha

Patience its a virtue... but that is a damn hard lesson to learn sometimes :)

Lauren,

I figured just seeing a picture of this guy would make for an interesting post. It almost makes me laugh to think about this guy. But believe me my patience more or less went to hell in the process of dealing with this. The amount of stress this was creating in my life was too much. Definitely a hard thing to learn.

Glad you found a new and less stressful place to live! Great you've included some pics too

Yeah, I figured the picture might be a nice touch since this guy has been an important part of the experience. I'll start trying to include more of my own pics going forward.

Nice post - important that people can 'connect' with the person behind the blog on a personal level.

I have had some artwork (in oils!) commissioned for my blog (and to hang at home, of course) which I will be posting about (when the painting is finished, and site redesign done!) - complete with picture of the artist.

Credit where credit is due, methinks.

Dean,

I started thinking about that quite a bit more over the last few days as I've thought about the branding aspect of things. I realized that if I started to use my surf photos, ocean photos, and of course photos of mechanics into everything it would definitely enhance the experience of the blog. So I think I'll be doing that a bit more going forward.

Sounds great - and simple.

The sort of thing that makes you say, "why didn't I think of that before?!"

I'm sure that most people, like me, filled in the blanks with you being the surf dude - but it will be great to see your whole visual story as the backdrop to the great content here.

Cheers, dude.