Networking Awesomely, Kissing Digital Babies and The Lifeblood of the Blogosphere

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This is part 5 in a series by 6 digital mavericks.

It’s kind of fitting that my installment falls somewhat later in this series. I consider myself somewhat of a social engineer and according to Malcom Gladwell I’m a connector. I guess that’s why Mars Dorian asked me to take up the task of explaining how to build relationships and your personal army, the lifeblood that keeps the blogosphere pumping with kick ass content.

Surround Yourself with Awesome

One of the well known secrets of success in both life and business is that we become the byproduct of the people we surround ourselves with. In fact I read somewhere once that your income can be determined by the income of your five closest friends. I think the same goes for your life as a digital maverick. Every day millions of people start new blogs, and new talent pervades the blogosphere. New voices clamor for somebody to listen, yet people get too caught up in star-fu#$#ing mindset.

I’ve talked before about the importance of  a blogging entourage, but now I want to talk about how you become the CEO of your digital destiny. Look at the blogosphere as a pool of talent that you get to recruit new employees from, however you can’t actually hire anybody.  You can only invite them to join your tribe. You’re good at certain things and you suck at others. Surround yourself with awesome by connecting with people who know how to do the things you don’t. Hopefully you’ll see where I’m going with this, but let’s look at some concrete examples.

  • Jonathan Wondrusch(@bybloggers): For those of you who don’t know Jonathan Wondrusch, you should. He’s a talented desginer/eproduct creation specialist at. I can’t design web sites or do layouts worth shit. Fortunately, Jonathan contacted me within a few weeks of starting Bybloggers and I consider him a member of my tribe and I’m a member of his. He’s currently helping me with my manifesto.
  • Jenny Leonard: Jenny is another digital baby on the rise and another talented designer/branding specialist. She rebranded her own site and came out the gate in full force and she’s not slowing down anytime soon.

So what’s the point. As my friend Stanford Smith at Pushing Social brilliantly put it, “kiss lots of digital babies.” Emerging talent is one of the most undervalued assets in the blogosphere. It’s theperfect opportunity to surround yourself with awesome with a group of people who are all looking for YOU. You’re the Morpheus to their Neo. Unplug them from the matrix and invite them into your world.

Make Friends not Followers

I think the number of followers you have is the most meaningless statistic ever.  I know I have 2500+ followers. But, the inner circle is who I talk to and that’s who talks to me.  Interestingly enough I don’t look for people who can do anything for me, which might seem like a contradiction to the points above.  But hear me out.  The people above just happen to have a talent, but I didn’t know much about that until I got to know them. This is like the ultimate dinner party and an opportunity for you to be the popular kid in high school, without being an asshole. I like people and I like stories, so let me give you an example

  • Chuck Johnstone is relatively new to the blogosphere. I think he’s only been at it for a little more than a month. You might be wondering what would cause me to strike up a relationship with him. I think he tweeted one of my posts or something so I checked out his profile. For the love of god, anytime somebody new mentions your or tweets your post, give them the courtesy of checking out who they are and what they’re up to. When you don’t it’s like a digital fuck you… (I realize at some point that it wont be scalable, but this is really key to how I’ve done things over the last several months). Anyways, I looked at Chuck’s site and I saw that he was a surfer. The rest is history and now I’m helping him with a crazy idea  I had for a project that requires something he has that I don’t, a fiance..(details coming soon).
  • Archan Mehta: For those of you want to read comments that will make you want to build this guy a blog so we can get more of his genius, take a look at Archan Mehta. His comments are so poetic that I couldn’t help but email him and ask him to share his genius here on The Skool of Life. Again, this comes down to friendship instead of followers.

Give everything you can

When I get interviewed I make a point to give away the farm. Locked up in the vacuum of that head of yours, your ideas are not doing the world much good. If you want to change the world, then the world needs to know about  the genius inside you and believe me, it’s there.

  • When people email me with their questions, I try to send them a relatively intelligent answer when I actually know what I’m talking about.
  • Every week I make a point to share whatever I can in a U-stream chat and it’s free. I also giveaway about as much info as I would in a 1 on 1 consult with somebody

What you need to realize is that you possess knowledge and skills that only YOU have.  Share it with the world and you’ll receive tenfold what you give.

In conclusion all I can really say is that technology has given us the gift of attending the world’s most interesting dinner party on a daily basis. Embrace it, love it, appreciate it, and make sure you tip the staff. Don’t get too shit-faced while you’re here. Save that for when we get together in real life :) .

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Great post, thanks for sharing your personal stories, they make it so much easier to relate and digest the advice given, which I think is lacking on a lot of other "how-to take over the world one blog at a time" blogs out there.
P x

Srini,
...community....
...relationships...
...bonds...

Love this!! Love how you approach creating these connections...these friends in your life. It's what makes this all so worth it...

Lance,

That has by far been the most rewarding the about the blogging experience for me. To be surrounded by a network of interesting, creative and brilliant people is blessing I'm grateful for every single day.

Make Friends NOT Followers.
That is all I need to hear. Epic tips, as usual. Thanks Srini.

Christina,

Thanks so much for your support here and on BlogcastFM. I'm so glad to have people like you in my network of supporters.

A good part #5 to Mar's series, I must read some of the others as this is a good way to connect.

Dwight Anthony
Financially Elite Blog dot com

Dwight,

You should definitely check out the others in the series. Some seriously epic bloggers that Mars pulled together for this series.

HI Srini! I remember when you kissed my digital baby self. :) It made me happy that you talked to me just before Blogworld.

A friend of mine just asked me this last night, "What if you were the only person in the blogosphere without a blog? It would be freeing to be all over the net, talking to people, connecting, throwing fairydust of encouragement."

I kinda feel like that IS me. :) I've discarded the imperfecthearing idea, and...I'm putting together a new site so people can know who I am besides this happily chirping bird.

By the way---STILL want to do a helicopter ride with ya! :)

Jeanie,

I'm looking forward to seeing your blog. I think you're going to be well prepared for a successful blog because you've surrounded yourself with some really amazing people.

Wow! you have good insight on today's social technology! In addition to this I would say You not only have to give value to your network, you should also have to make sure the right people notice that value. Isn't it?

Yo Sirini - this is advice is pure gold... These 3 tips will ensure that your social experience is fulfilling, rewarding and valuable. Kudos!

Mark,

Thanks for your comments and support. Going into this with the goal of connecting with awesome people is hands down one the best ways to ensure that blogging ends up being a very rewarding experience.

Srini,

I started out knowing very little about computers. In fact, I am still not tech savvy.

But I have learned a lot from being able to navigate the web, finally, thanks to the help of other people. I have met a lot of friendly and helpful people on the highway of life.

Artsty-fartsy people are not necessarily the best at stuff people like you take for granted.

We may have a great taste for aesthetics, but may lack other skills, as some of you have rightly pointed out.

Srinivas Ramnujan, for example, was a pioneering mathematician, but he was less than able in other areas of his life. Same is true for many people who excel in one dimension of life but find themselves all at sea in other life skills. Thanks. Cheers.

Archan,

Agreed. I think that I suck at math and logistics which is why Sid Savara has proven to be a phenomenal BlogcastFM partner. We make for each others inadequacies and complement each others strengths.

Hi Srinirao-
yes, I have heard these statistics + theories (5 friends & poor dad, rich dad), but I must confess I am a true believer in shooting stars. And having friends in all places.
& completely agree with your Quality over quantity when it comes to people -fans- followers-etc. kiss* from a digital baby!

Kara,

Glad to have you hear. I think that there are definitely shooting stars, hence the kissing of digital babies. The cool thing is that people who are small don't stay small forever and that is why I say emerging talent is the most undervalued asset in the blogosphere.

Srini,

Great post! I'm consistently astonished at how welcoming the blogging community is. I'm so thankful and humbled to be mentioned in your article and I know that my role down the road will be to pay it forward. I feel that the beauty of the blogging community is the concept of giving back and understanding that all of us are human. We all have likes, dislikes, and passions. If you shares likes and dislikes you're said to have similarities. If you can help someone in pursuing their passion you've made a friend for life.

Thank you again for being so welcoming as I start this journey.

Chuck

Chuck

You already have paid it forward :). Well said "If you can help someone in pursuing a passion, you've made a friend for life." What we have at our disposal with the Internet is the opportunity to surround ourselves withe like minded people in a way that we've never been able to before.

Great perspective Srini, the quote “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” is by motivational speaker Jim Rohn.
Many writers have refered to it since, including Robert Kiyosaki in 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad' (if I remember right).
'Kissing digital Babies' - pure genius :)

Jacob,

Thanks so much for your comments. I think that my favorite thing about blogging is the opportunity to surround myself with so many amazing and interesting people. The thing is that there are tons of incredibly talented people in the blogosphere who are just getting started and we should never neglect them.

Hi Srini,

I agree with your view that it's good to surround yourself with people who know how to do the stuff you don't. Mutual help and support for each other is a great basis for any productive relationship - whether on or offline.

You make a good point that the number of followers you have (whether via your blog or social media) is a useless stat. to go by.

Real influence should be juged by how motivated your network is to support the sharing of your values and message. As you suggest, it's more powerful to have one active supporter, than 100 passive followers.

Scott

I think you make a great point about real influence. People are so caught up in the numbers that they lose site of what actually causes solid numbers to happen. I think there's tremendous power in small groups.

Here here!! I think you know my sentiments, enough said! Carry on!

Rob,

Glad to have you as a member of the tribe and be one of yours.

Wholeheartedly agree with this post. Many people think because we're online somehow we can shortcut the process but the same rules of 'real life' apply to our blog. We wouldn't think that we could just say hi to random people on the street and they'd come into our store so why do we think we can just follow people on Twitter and they'll come to our blog.

Ayngelina,

That's a really good way of looking at it. I think that bringing social intelligence from the offline world into our online world is a really smart way of doing things.

Hey Srini,

awesome evergreen part of the series - sooo cool.
I luv the phrase "kissing digital babies" - Stanford has a thing for cool names.
I admit that I lately haven't checked out the blogs of the people who retweeted my posts, but I sure as heck will do that now !

I luv the way you find new people ( and more often than not interview them on Blogcast FM).
Seriously, whenever I want to expand my tribe, I just check out the latest interview on Blogcast FM and then directly approach that person if I like their style.

You're leading by example !

Mars,
I think you've done a kick ass job organizing this series. I'm honored to be a part of it and amongst such great company. One thing that would be interesting is to dissect the results of running the series. (i.e. how much traffic did each person get, how many times was each post tweet/stubmled.etc, and how many total inbound links were generate across all the blogs).

Hi Srinirao

I came over here from Twitter as I was intrigued by the blog title. I love it; kiss a lot of digital babies.. :-)

I love networking and connecting with other bloggers so this post has really resonated with me. In my short time as a blogger I have connected with some amazing people. They have cheered me on, encouraged my blogging journey and come to the rescue when I have pressed the panic button (usually with anything that relates to techie stuff lol).

If someone comments on my blog, I do them the courtesy of visiting their blog and commenting on their post if at all possible. If it happens to be a techie blog and the post is purely geek-speak then I so can't comment on that! Otherwise I would leave a comment and hopefully add to the conversation.

Some of the bloggers I have met are experienced bloggers and marketers, others newbies like myself. No matter, we all have something to give and I intend to keep interacting within my blogging community and hopefully keep finding more blogs to visit and learn from.

Patricia Perth Australia

Patricia,

Thanks for your comments and checking out my blog :). Welcome the Skool of life. I agree that it is courteous to check out what people are up to especially when they've made a choice to interact with you. I always follow people who comment on my blog on twitter. A few weeks back somebody commented, and I couldn't find his twitter handle on his web site so I emailed him and asked him what it was so I could follow him on twitter. Look forward to exchanging thoughts and ideas with you :)