Comments on: Guest Post: Using Good Jealousy And Overcoming Useless Jealousy

By: Farnoosh

Farnoosh — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 03:59:48 +0000

Motivation – that is my response. I used to have some jealousy and it was an awful feeling. It made me a lesser person and I did not like who I was. So now I look at those who do yoga far better than me, tango far better – one thing that I struggle with, and speak fluently in the languages I love – and I let that MOTIVATE ME!!!!! That, and I am thrilled to know people who are more successful……!!!

By: srinirao

srinirao — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 05:07:31 +0000

Armen,

Thanks for writing up this guest post. From the looks of the comments, looks like it was quite popular. I definitely think that there is a comparative and competitive disadvantage that people fall victim to and that can be really harmful, but you’ve also given us a way for it to be helpful.

By: Positive Gangsta

Positive Gangsta — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:29:57 +0000

It never necessary to compare yourself with another person , because it being yourself is where its at.

” be yourself, everyone else is taken”

Why be jealous of a person? it doesn’t make you better or increase your self esteem. Its better to be the best you can be, by first loving yourself!

By: Armen Shirvanian

Armen Shirvanian — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:09:04 +0000

Gordie: Hey that is cool. That switch you made is one I made too, I think. I think I made it a solid understand when I wrote an article saying that our only competition is ourselves, like you said there.

Dani: Thanks for that. I had wanted to make this point for a bit, and to make sure the distinction between types of jealousy was noticeable.

Amanda: Hello to you. I just wrote about that distinction in my last response, and here you are bringing it up which is a good sign about my goal for the article. I like what you wrote there in relating it to how emotions can overwhelm or be controlled, and those that control them are basically unstoppable.

Eric: Thank you. I like that you put admiration there, because it might as well be what fits in the place of what I called “good jealousy”. We have that option to be glad with where we are, and no one will help us make that choice except ourselves. Others are worried about their own jealousies or weaknesses.

Kaushik: Thanks there. You might be right about that. I would say I am a supporter of the good kind of jealousy, or admiration, but it would probably work out fine to not even really focus on others and what they have. I do like a bit of competitive aspect so I like to see what is around. Thanks for your alternate viewpoint.

By: Kaushik

Kaushik — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:16:43 +0000

Good insight. We can simply allow jealousy–the good kind and bad–welcome it, love it, and then let it go! There’s no need for it.

By: Eric | Eden Journal

Eric | Eden Journal — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:56:51 +0000

Great post! Jealousy is all to common in today’s society. The key I’ve found in overcoming it, is to become happy with yourself and your place in life. Once you are happy with who you are, you can more easily replace the bad jealousy with good jealousy (or admiration,) and then use that to make improvements in your own life.

By: Amanda Linehan

Amanda Linehan — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:23:57 +0000

Hi Armen – I like the distinction you make in this post. On the one hand you can wallow in a negative emotion, or, on the other, you can figure out what action you need to take. It’s the difference between letting emotions overwhelm you or hearing a message from them.

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 11:05:50 +0000

Great guest post, Armen! This is a very important topic and I’m really glad you covered it here.

By: Gordie Rogers

Gordie Rogers — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 10:53:50 +0000

I have found in the past that comparing myself to others only makes me angry at myself for being as “good” as them. I’ve finally learnt to let go and concentrate on impro ving myself. I only compete with myself.