Guest Post: People who attack you now want to team up with you later

The same folks who put you down today, or criticize you when you try to start something new, or don’t present much verbal support(you know what this feels like), are the same folks who will later want to be on your team. They will want to work with you, or deal with you, or something of that sort. Regardless of if this is always the case, this is how you want to think when you feel a lack of support from certain folks.

People Only Attack You Because You Are Someone Worth Attacking

People don’t attack trees, or show a lack of support for trees. This is because a tree has no sensation of being attacked indirectly. On the other hand, we as humans can feel when someone is against what we are doing. We feel it very quickly when they are around. While it is often advised to distance yourself from these folks, that is a concept for a different article. Here, I would mention that you can feel a lack of support because they see you as bringing enough energy to be worth countering.

No one goes to a poorer area than their own to put the people who live there down. It doesn’t make any sense to us, and that is because there is nothing worth attacking for someone who is not as poor, which equates to having nothing to gain from the attacking or lack of support. On the other hand, going to a person who is richer, or more intelligent, or esteemed in some advantageous way, is the activity of those who want to try to benefit from the exchange.

They Will Come Back, So Don’t Worry Too Much

Don’t get too caught up in what some folks might be saying to you now, as they can be suffering from a host of issues. They might actually think they are helping when they are not, which is at least good because that means there is good intent there. They could also be looking to tear you down as competition, not realizing that building themselves up would be the better way to go. Regardless, you do fine when you stick to focusing on your efforts.

When the same people who didn’t support you during your period of effort, or even attacked you at that time, return to join with you when you obtain a noticeable level of success, there’s no need to make them feel bad at that point as well. Realize that their non-support of you actually caused them to not do as well, and you can possibly offer them some assistance, but not the kind like you provide to those who saw you building self-discipline and stuck with you.

Examples Of This

There are loads of examples of this type of occurrence. Many famous people talk about once having been mocked for what they were doing, or ridiculed for being outlandish in some way, and about how they now have to basically avoid all the attention they get. This is how the system works. There is a hidden wall between you and the person who has gotten to the point where they are needing to avoid people to protect their usage of time. You can cross this line by focusing on your efforts, even with downers around.

Armen Shirvanian writes words of wisdom about mindset, communication, relationships, and related topics at Timeless Information. You can follow him on Twitter at @Armen.